Perception- the way we see and interpret the things around us. Our perceptions can make us stronger or they make us weaker. This choice is up to US to decide.
If we embrace the chaos of life, while keeping a cool head and focus on the things we can control, we can find a way to adapt to and thrive under any circumstances. We must control our emotions and minimize their effect on our lives.
Must learn to separate reliable signals from misleading ones. Filter out delusions, expectations, prejudices, and fear. We must filter out emotions and separate fact and emotion.
Perception IS NOT reality. Perception is the lies we make up in our heads.
Once you learn to manage your perceptions you will be calm, collected, focused and realistic in situation where others are fearful, hesitant, reactive, and overly optimistic/pessimistic.
Stay mindful of the 2 Razors!!
Hanlon’s Razor: Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.
Ockham’s Razor: Suppose there exist two explanations for an occurrence. In this case the one that requires the least speculation is usually correct. Another way of saying it is that the more assumptions you have to make, the more unlikely an explanation.
In other words, before assigning a mentally-charged meaning to something (i.e….. Someone F’d up!!) that happens in your life – run it through a test of : Can this be likely be explained by ‘Someone just didn’t think of XXX or YYY variable’. For example, don’t label your child disobedient and lacking respect of your rules without considering that 7 year olds are easily distracted and might just need to be reminded 1 more time.
Every negative is an opportunity in disguise. Because odds are, others are having the same problem. Everything obstacle is a chance to grow.
When faced with a seemingly unpassable obstacle you must try to steady your nerves, control your emotions, revert to present moment to be objective, to place things in perspective, focus on what can be controlled, see what is good in the situation and ignore what disturbs and limits others. This is how you find the opportunity in the obstacle.
There is nothing good or bad, just perception. -Shakespeare
When you face an obstacle, take a deep breathe and say “I am the one in control, not my emotions. I can see what is going on here and I am not going to get upset or nervous. I’m not going to let emotions cloud my judgment.”
How you contextualize your obstacle dictates how daunting it seems to overcome. It’s up to you if you want to put an “I” in front of it and own it. I hate public speaking. I failed. I screwed up. This adds and extra element – You- instead of just the obstacle itself. Don’t personify it and subject yourself to that.
BECAUSE, here’s the thing!!!!!…..
Nobody is coming to save you. If you want your goals, there is only 1 way – take action. Greet your obstacles with energy, persistence, resilience, pragmatism, strategic vision, a coherent process, craftiness, an eye for opportunity in pivotal moments. If you do so, nothing can stand in your way.
**** Most mostly taken from the book “The Obstacle is The Way” by Ryan Holiday. The Razors part was added by me.
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